EXCELLENCE TAKES TIME

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Journeying through life — with, the busy schedules, trying to find purpose, what your ministry is, trying to get a career, working on a project, trying to get that degree, making that relationship work, trying to save a broken marriage or maybe picking up the pieces of your life after a divorce — Destiny. Perhaps you heard a word from God — but mind you, God gave several people the same word — so you might have the same vision with sister A or brother B to start a company but then it might not involve the same process — Sister A might need an office space whiles God wants you to start yours in the garage or the back yard of your house…PROCESS.

As developing children, especially during our youth, we often have a greater degree of neuroplasticity in comparison to adults. The brain’s neuroplasticity ensures it remains flexible enough throughout childhood, the ability to unlearn patterns of response and create new conditioning. Conditioning refers to our habitual response to event (so for instance if during your childhood you had dreams of becoming a doctor but growing and developing new interests you now want to become an engineer, adapt to the new dream)

There shall not any man be able to stand before thee all the days of thy life: as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. (Joshua 1:5)

You have to read my previous post in order to understand this analogy. So if “God is going to be with you as He was with Moses does that mean you have to skip the Process? God’s presence doesn’t abort the process… The fact that God is going to be with you doesn’t mean you have to boycott the process. Process is usually an accumulation of boring days — routine — go to work(school, church) and come home, waking up the next morning, go through the same routine and it goes on and on — boring. Trust me going through the process isn’t fun but you know “People who win are people who don’t quit” You will win if you don’t quit“.

The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way” (Psalm 37:23) The key word here is Steps. Why didn’t God say the Elevator? That is because steps here is significant to process — but we live in a generation where we want to sidestep(overlook) the “steps” just because we want to take the “elevator“. We want everything suddenly, right now, immediately, thinking if I don’t reach a certain level at a certain age then I might not reach it, if I don’t get married at a certain age then it might not happen at all — the I have to get it right and now.

We put so much pressure on ourselves, comparing our stories to what we see on social media and what we have in our minds, so you’re 23 and you’re already depressed about not being married yet, not having a car, a huge salary etc. Comparing our youth to things that a 50 year old has achieved. Forgetting that as children we must learn, through practical skills and strategies, to be aware of and label our emotions. Consequently acquiring a set of coping skills(patience, endurance) to enhance our well-being in times of challenges — to perform to our full potential. Growing through the process.

 “Beginnings don’t look like endings” Bishop TD Jakes

A lot of people shy away or abandon new beginnings because nobody recognizes greatness in a seed form. TD Jakes started preaching with less than 5 people as members yet he went through the process not knowing the bigger picture from then. I believe Jesus Christ went through a process too from the time He was born till the age of 12 there’s not much recorded in the Bible meaning He was at the background yet Training. If someone had told me I’d be blogging about Jesus today trust me I won’t believe the person. Somewhere in 2013 a friend Afia Kyei always said that whenever she read my status on whatsapp she will tell me she believes I’ll become a writer and most likely about the things of God lol let me save you from the response I always gave her. God had to take me through a phase before getting here. So Just like an oak tree doesn’t start like a tree, it start as an acorn, you should see an acorn it looks nothing like the tree, your partner may not be where he/she is supposed to be, maybe your career is not where it is supposed to be, maybe your finances(salary) is not where it is supposed to be — but just because all that hasn’t reached the opiate of success, does not mean you shouldn’t earnestly contend to reach the expected end as Jeremiah calls it (Jeremiah 29:11).  Trusting God that it is going to end right.

 “It takes time to be excellent” You can’t be a winner overnight…there’s a process.

So God is saying I am with you, I will not leave you nor forsake you; it does not mean He is excusing you from the process. So you just lost that job and God is saying “I am with you as I was with Moses” you failed that exam He says “I am with you” His presence is in the normal days we think are irrelevant. His presence is with you yet He still has to train you to get rid of all the irrelevant things that doesn’t conform to the purpose(plan) He has for you, He still has to prune your heart and sensibilities “Remember how the LORD your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands” (Deutronomy 8:2) . Hence the wilderness is supposed to toughen you up for the coming Glory. 

My mum usually says “the greatness of marriage is not determined in a year” meaning the process counts. She said if you see a couple who have been together for 25 years and above — they are not superhuman but rather they were willing to go through the process that yields a long lasting marriage. Where am I getting with this? Excellence is not always harder, it just sometimes takes longer. Excellence is a way of thinking, being and doing life that is mindful of what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, how it needs to be done and even why it needs to be done. 

Whatever is worth doing is worth doing right and through a process. “Right doesn’t go to wrong, wrong comes to Right”

And He said, “My presence shall go with you, and I will give you rest.”(Exodus 33:14)

His Presence is in the Process.

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EMBRACING MY TRUTH

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I didn’t quite choose the path of obedience, talking my way out of every situation especially when these little fears creep up. Walking into every gathering self consciously, wondering if that stare was for me, don’t be deceived I wasn’t so confident. I remember being in a rush to have a taste of what being a “grown up” was like — experimenting things that didn’t leave me chaste, bad decisions so I dealt with them by covering up.  A few boy issues that I didn’t quite deal with properly, carrying the luggage of verbal abuse as a reminder but on the contrary that is too burdensome.

Had my fair share of struggles and still growing through them just like going through the wilderness so I’m guessing all I need is endurance. Trying to be the light but the guilt from the past and insecurities stare at me in the face — and there is my circle of people with their huge “expectations” of me — seeking validation. Perceiving myself to be so broken why will God even use me? I’m so messed up He can’t use me. Grace? Yet in the midst of all this I am still battling with Trusting Him…How do I do it?

Then comes “Destiny” revealing God’s original intent for bringing me forth. That underlying question we all have deep down inside. The mystery that unfolds His purpose for my life. But didn’t they say faith comes with being CHOSEN; If He called me to it, He’s going to bring me through it right? Hence I can no longer live in my feelings anymore; to do or not to do things just because I feel or do not feel like respectively. How uncomfortable am I willing to be for God? Beyond Emotions?

Truth is it might just be me and Him in this season thus anything that threatens to drown me from hearing from God or distract me from what He’s doing I must be willing to do away with(cut off). I don’t want to be counting on people to give me something I know only God can give — I might as well endure the stretch that comes with growth. The confusion that comes with the process — it is all coming together.

I can’t meet everyone’s approval before igniting the flame that God is trying to spark up in my life. Perhaps I don’t necessarily need people’s validation in order to be authentic but I actually need God’s hand on my life and His voice so that I can be everything He wants me to be and all I need is my willingness to yield. I don’t need to live in the parameters of my insecurities any longer. I have all the strength it takes “He gives power to the weak, And to those who have no might He increases strength” (Isaiah 40:29) So I’ll survive again, and again, and again — perhaps each time I survive, I may be teaching someone they can survive too by trusting God.

Willingly taking the path of being uncomfortable for God, to sacrifice, taking up that cross – without giving up to the end. Insights about my purpose will open through this stretch.

Hope of a Life Spent With You.