EXCELLENCE TAKES TIME

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Journeying through life — with, the busy schedules, trying to find purpose, what your ministry is, trying to get a career, working on a project, trying to get that degree, making that relationship work, trying to save a broken marriage or maybe picking up the pieces of your life after a divorce — Destiny. Perhaps you heard a word from God — but mind you, God gave several people the same word — so you might have the same vision with sister A or brother B to start a company but then it might not involve the same process — Sister A might need an office space whiles God wants you to start yours in the garage or the back yard of your house…PROCESS.

As developing children, especially during our youth, we often have a greater degree of neuroplasticity in comparison to adults. The brain’s neuroplasticity ensures it remains flexible enough throughout childhood, the ability to unlearn patterns of response and create new conditioning. Conditioning refers to our habitual response to event (so for instance if during your childhood you had dreams of becoming a doctor but growing and developing new interests you now want to become an engineer, adapt to the new dream)

There shall not any man be able to stand before thee all the days of thy life: as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. (Joshua 1:5)

You have to read my previous post in order to understand this analogy. So if “God is going to be with you as He was with Moses does that mean you have to skip the Process? God’s presence doesn’t abort the process… The fact that God is going to be with you doesn’t mean you have to boycott the process. Process is usually an accumulation of boring days — routine — go to work(school, church) and come home, waking up the next morning, go through the same routine and it goes on and on — boring. Trust me going through the process isn’t fun but you know “People who win are people who don’t quit” You will win if you don’t quit“.

The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way” (Psalm 37:23) The key word here is Steps. Why didn’t God say the Elevator? That is because steps here is significant to process — but we live in a generation where we want to sidestep(overlook) the “steps” just because we want to take the “elevator“. We want everything suddenly, right now, immediately, thinking if I don’t reach a certain level at a certain age then I might not reach it, if I don’t get married at a certain age then it might not happen at all — the I have to get it right and now.

We put so much pressure on ourselves, comparing our stories to what we see on social media and what we have in our minds, so you’re 23 and you’re already depressed about not being married yet, not having a car, a huge salary etc. Comparing our youth to things that a 50 year old has achieved. Forgetting that as children we must learn, through practical skills and strategies, to be aware of and label our emotions. Consequently acquiring a set of coping skills(patience, endurance) to enhance our well-being in times of challenges — to perform to our full potential. Growing through the process.

 “Beginnings don’t look like endings” Bishop TD Jakes

A lot of people shy away or abandon new beginnings because nobody recognizes greatness in a seed form. TD Jakes started preaching with less than 5 people as members yet he went through the process not knowing the bigger picture from then. I believe Jesus Christ went through a process too from the time He was born till the age of 12 there’s not much recorded in the Bible meaning He was at the background yet Training. If someone had told me I’d be blogging about Jesus today trust me I won’t believe the person. Somewhere in 2013 a friend Afia Kyei always said that whenever she read my status on whatsapp she will tell me she believes I’ll become a writer and most likely about the things of God lol let me save you from the response I always gave her. God had to take me through a phase before getting here. So Just like an oak tree doesn’t start like a tree, it start as an acorn, you should see an acorn it looks nothing like the tree, your partner may not be where he/she is supposed to be, maybe your career is not where it is supposed to be, maybe your finances(salary) is not where it is supposed to be — but just because all that hasn’t reached the opiate of success, does not mean you shouldn’t earnestly contend to reach the expected end as Jeremiah calls it (Jeremiah 29:11).  Trusting God that it is going to end right.

 “It takes time to be excellent” You can’t be a winner overnight…there’s a process.

So God is saying I am with you, I will not leave you nor forsake you; it does not mean He is excusing you from the process. So you just lost that job and God is saying “I am with you as I was with Moses” you failed that exam He says “I am with you” His presence is in the normal days we think are irrelevant. His presence is with you yet He still has to train you to get rid of all the irrelevant things that doesn’t conform to the purpose(plan) He has for you, He still has to prune your heart and sensibilities “Remember how the LORD your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands” (Deutronomy 8:2) . Hence the wilderness is supposed to toughen you up for the coming Glory. 

My mum usually says “the greatness of marriage is not determined in a year” meaning the process counts. She said if you see a couple who have been together for 25 years and above — they are not superhuman but rather they were willing to go through the process that yields a long lasting marriage. Where am I getting with this? Excellence is not always harder, it just sometimes takes longer. Excellence is a way of thinking, being and doing life that is mindful of what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, how it needs to be done and even why it needs to be done. 

Whatever is worth doing is worth doing right and through a process. “Right doesn’t go to wrong, wrong comes to Right”

And He said, “My presence shall go with you, and I will give you rest.”(Exodus 33:14)

His Presence is in the Process.

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“Distinctively Similar”

There shall not any man be able to stand before thee all the days of thy life: as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. (Joshua 1:5)

Earlier at dawn today, whiles listening to one of Bishop T.D Jakes’ sermons on Destiny Steps, God showed me something I’ve been doing wrong for the past few months. So I created this blog in October, I didn’t post anything until December — this was because I kept wondering if this was really what God wanted me to do and comparing what I write to other bloggers. A part of me was very sure yet after the first six posts I started having second thoughts about it — if He was the sole inspiration behind this, why then am I getting zero, two, five, ten and twenty-three views for my post. I started considering deleting the blog or not posting at all. I kept comparing my blog to a few others and telling myself I was not doing something right or perhaps the Holy Spirit was not backing whatever I was writing…COMPARISON.

Now back to the scripture up there, Joshua 1:5; I believe God is speaking to Joshua who was a men-tee of Moses saying “There shall not any man be able to stand before thee all the days of thy life: as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”  This is quite intense; that’s because God did some amazing stuff through Moses trust me I wish I was Moses at the red sea — hearing everyone complain just to raise my staff and then part the red sea, cool right? Yet Joshua never smote any rock that brought water. Meaning what worked for Moses didn’t work for Joshua.  I am not who inspired or trained me, else I’ll go and stand at the beach with a rod and try the same thing and say “Oh God you lied it didn’t work for me”. Meaning God is going to be with me just like He was with Moses but then I am NOT Moses. God is going to be with Me as He was with Moses, so I have to discover my own UNIQUENESS to accomplish my purpose. He will not do with me what He did with Sister A or Brother B.

Can you recognize God being with you to the same degree but then creating a new experience? A new story? God doesn’t do an on course, everything He does is a designers “Original”, in the sense that God and me can’t form the same coalition He and Moses formed(figuratively for other bloggers or anyone I compare myself to). I have to be willing to be “distinctively similar” He will be with me but then I have to be myself. His word says ” Behold I will do a new thing in you” (Isaiah 43:19) “for the former things are passed away” (Revelation 21:4) So now what do I keep and what do I let go of? To keep the promise of His Presence and let go of what I have in mind, that’s because God didn’t promise to do whatever I have in mind. God’s Promise is not a duplicate — the only similar thing is “I will be with you as I was with Moses” meaning He will never leave you, His presence goes with you day in day out. He won’t remove His presence from me.

You know how people leave(remove presence, forsake – emotionally abandon) you because you’re no longer useful to them or perhaps they don’t feel safe loving you.  God said whenever He is ready to get anything done or do a new thing in you, He will never leave nor forsake you meaning He will not emotionally abandon you because you disappointed Him. How many times do you love people who have wronged you? Naturally I tend to emotionally withdraw once I get hurt. I realized something that “We can’t cure anything we forsake” Perhaps you’ve withdrawn from people and things expecting things to get better it won’t get better once you forsake it. Yet God is saying “I will not leave you nor forsake you” knowing how flawed I am — meaning God is going to be my long term partner, simply My Ride or Die. Yet I am similar to Moses, I may not have everything He has but then I carry some of His features(The Presence Of God) The promise is centered on His Presence… 

If God is that committed to a flawed person… Can you hold on to a flawed dream? A suffering Business? A broken marriage? An imperfect partner? Or at the smell of trouble do you forsake your dream because it is tough?

You’re not Moses, But God is going to be with you as He was with Moses. You are “Distinctively”(UNIQUE) “Similar” (ALIKE). You Have a Unique Story don’t compare it to the person sitting close to you.

Please read and meditate on Joshua 1. My next post later today will be a continuation of this, God’s presence doesn’t abort the process… The fact that God is going to be with you doesn’t mean you have to boycott the process.

Stay blessed!

HE NEVER LOST A PATIENT

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Often times we limit the power of the Holy Spirit and His abilities without giving Him a chance to work on us — we go round in circles looking for answers and remedies to our sicknesses ( cancer, stroke, brain tumor, scoliosis etc) frustrations, bitterness, emotional wounds, abuse both physically and verbally and it goes on and on. Our own ways and self prescriptions only do us more harm than good. But then I believe Jesus can heal all that and more look at he woman with the issue of blood (Mark 5:25–34, Matthew 9:20–22, Luke 8:43–48), this should tell us that healing goes beyond just a headache or migraine. Jesus seeks to make you whole.

19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all (Psalm 34:19) – simply put Jesus can deliver you from anything.

I bumped into an old friend yesterday — whiles catching up I was lead to ask about her mum —  her facial expression changed  from excitement to disgust in just a second. The happiness in her eyes disappeared immediately because of some words her mother had said to her — to the extent that she had doubts about her being her biological mother. I got really sad listening to her say those words — a part of me understood how she was feeling, simply because the way a parent perceives and talks to his or her child becomes the child’s inner voice — and also because I had experienced verbal abuse personally except that it was not my mum. 

I believe words have power and can manifest in ways you don’t even imagine, the bible says in Proverb 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” Some words that were said to you so many years back are still imprinted on your mind because of the depth of pain it caused you when you heard them. I have a thing for words —  unfortunately, I have found myself in situations where I got verbally abused to the extent of doubting my self worth. I got trapped in my own silence, I started experiencing identity crisis. Those words re-echo in my head countless times and I feel worse. Truth is all I was craving for was to be loved and appreciated in a way that only God knows how — hence no matter whom I confided in thinking they could help, nothing was able to fix how much pain I was feeling.

But then guess what? My inner healing occurred on my knees—all I needed to do was go back to the cross, I cried out to the Lord.  It didn’t happen in a day, but the bottom line is this: I am healed. I was healed by the Presence of Jesus. (Yes, He can do same for you) I had to come to an understanding that maybe the very people who hurt or broke me with those words might have been broken one way or the other — so my best physician had to be JESUS The Only One who never lost a patient.  My experience of weakness has been admittedly frustrating at times, but it has also been, by God’s good and gracious design, very beneficial for me and others. I believe God is pleased to use our various kinds of weaknesses and limitations to remind us of important truths and refine our trust in him. 

When we get healed we are so quick to forget, and go back to our daily routines, when things are going well, we are tempted to forget how dependent we are upon God for everything (Deuteronomy 6:10–12). Good salaries, ministry success, healthy bodies, or a charming personality can become the horses and chariots in which we put our trust (Psalm 20:7). When our weakness should reminds us that we depend on God and His providence for life(breath), we find joy simply in knowing that we live by His Grace.

Maybe yours has to do with something your dad/mum said to you whiles you were growing up, something your current boyfriend keeps saying to you, or something your boss said or whoever may have said or done to hurt you. No matter what that infirmity may be — I am here to tell you JESUS CAN AND WILL HEAL YOU  — so I need you to shake it off and walk in what you believe — you were wonderfully made, you’re God’s perfect creation and nothing anyone says to you defines you. Yes, it’s not that easy but trust me just let it go and believe in your true identity (How God sees you and witness the difference)

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer (Psalm 19:14). Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29) In the same manner that you dislike what someone did to you — you train your tongue not to go around doing same. This scripture gave my mind a new thinking  — in the sense that, I owe it to myself and whoever comes into contact with me to be verbally good to them. Teaching my mouth the habit of speaking good and positive things into their lives.

Prayer

Dear Lord thank you for your mercies and grace that are made new every morning unto us. Thank you for your blood that makes the shattered whole. I pray and commit anyone reading this into thy healing arms that is able to make every broken thing whole. Heal him/her from any hurt or pain be it physical, emotional or spiritual grant unto him/her a renewed heart, mind, body and soul to live according to your will in Jesus Name…Amen.

“Grace Came Through”

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I don’t know who you are, or why you are reading this page. I only know that for this moment, you’re reading it, and that is a very good thing…

I haven’t told anyone. No I wasn’t going to tell anyone (probably wanted to keep this as my tiny little secret). This private conversation with God was too tender and raw to share. Perhaps my life’s calling was about to take a sharp left turn. How do I recover from this latest blow of hurt and disappointment? For hours, I spilled out my concerns to Him — begging for answers and desperately wanting the gnawing pain in my heart to go away. Yet the pain was still there, very tangible… Depression set in and all I could think of was to end it all…

Somewhere in 2014, I lost one of the most valuable people in my life. I thought to myself; it was all over. I thought I had lost it all without having a taste of what it would have been like. Yes I was growing and still needed him around, in fact I think I still do. Was God really concerned? Was my life’s calling about to take a sharp left turn that I wasn’t prepared for? No more pampering, What happens to the plans of furthering my education? My dreams? My life was virtually shattered with that text message “sorry about your dad, my condolences”. I needed people. But did they even understand? No.

After a difficult experience, and it always seems easier to linger under the covers a little while longer. But what happens when that thought becomes your default? I grew bitter, I blamed God for taking my dad away (He took my little brother and sister away when I was little and now this? I was always going to church, serving and giving like every other believer. So why didn’t He prevent it? I allowed the devil play with my mind, I stopped going to church regularly, I became bitter and moody, my grades started to drop, the look of anger became my default, I didn’t like who I had become.

Now feeling like a mess, a failure,  I couldn’t hold it in, it seemed like just the right time, my room mates were not around. “Well, I might as well just end it all before they get back” I said to myself. (Yes I tried to commit suicide!) I still can’t explain how I got to that point but thank God whatever I mixed up to drink on that fateful Saturday slipped from my hands.

“I don’t know how I escaped this phase” I just know Grace came through.

My mind did a lot of wondering. Circumstances that produced full-on hot tears as I cried out to God in despair. Was God really concerned?  I knew God loved me, but honestly, I wasn’t feeling very loved at that moment. I felt as if Satan were throwing darts at me labeled: Forgotten. Invisible. Hopeless. Failure. Not good enough.

In an audible cry, I uttered these words; God, I can’t live like this, please take this pain, the heaviness in my heart away, this Christian life seems impossible to live unless you change my heart.  Give me a heart to love and desire you more than anything else in this world. I need you to take off this burden I don’t want to go on being bitter. Lord please set me free, renew my mind…some of the words got stuck in my throat the tears I couldn’t control”(Yes I still remember every single word) After this I begun to connect the dots ( not suddenly, but after some months)… If I loved God, then I would live for God and nothing else, yes I had lost my dad but then God still has a purpose for my life, I’ll live and declare the works of God — His plans are for my good. (Jeremiah 29:11).

     Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.

Sometimes you don’t even know how you sank into depression — perhaps all the measures you used to cope with the pain failed or the pain becomes greater than the resource for coping but mind you You can survive this.  That’s all! It’s about Survival. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die – it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights… no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.

Don’t accept it if someone tells you, “That’s not enough to be suicidal about.” There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain. I am not saying suicide is either wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. 

Grace comes to them that ask. No matter how lost you are or the amount of pain you feel, find that strength to call on GRACE. You know, it’s that “merciful kindness by which God, exerting his holy influence upon souls, turns them to Christ, keeps, strengthens, increases them in Christian faith, knowledge, affection, and kindles them to the exercise of the Christian virtues“. He will receive you with open arms. You are still useful to God no matter how hopeless the situation you find yourself in seems. I want you to know that; God loves you the more when you’re feeling worthless. 

Ps; A suicidal person may not ask for help, but that doesn’t mean that help isn’t wanted. People who take their lives don’t want to die—they just want to stop hurting. Don’t add up by being judgmental, show more concern and love.

Grace Supersedes Everything.

Jesus Loves You.

Stay Blessed!

NOTHING LIKE HER – RUTH

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I’m guessing you are familiar with the story of RUTH in the Bible — that’s if I’m right. It has been called the most beautiful short story ever written. Studying the book of Ruth, all these amazing attributes — Lol wait, why did my parents name me Ruth? — first off, I am nothing like Her. Yes, I’ve been disobedient and gone contrary to God’s commandments. Stained innocence with a good heart — but just like the story of Ruth I believe there’s redemption in Christ Jesus.

Every event related back to Naomi; her husband’s and sons’ deaths, her daughters-in-law, her return to Bethlehem, her God, her relative, Boaz, her land to sell, and her progeny —  the story views “God through the eyes of a woman.” Naomi has been compared to a female Job. She lost everything: home, husband, and sons—and even more than Job did—her livelihood. She joined the lowest ranks of Israelites: the poor and the widowed. She cried out in her grief and neglected to see the gift that God placed in her path—Ruth.

The story of Ruth shows the blessings that obedience can bring. It shows the Israelites the loving, faithful nature of their God. This story demonstrates that God responds to His people’s cry. He practices what He preaches, so to speak. Watching Him provide for Naomi and Ruth, two widows with little prospects for a future, we learn that He cares for the outcasts of society just as He asks us to do (Jeremiah 22:16; James 1:27).

WHY IS RUTH SO IMPORTANT?

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Ruth embodied loyal love. Her moving vow of loyalty (Ruth 1:16–17), though obviously not marital in nature, it tells us the depths of devotion new couples must aspire for in marriages. The book reveals the extent of God’s grace—He accepted Ruth into His chosen people and honored her with a role in continuing the family line into which His appointed king, David, and later His Son, Jesus, would be born (Matthew 1:1, 5).

Ruth had an open mind and a teachable spirit, so she listened to her mother-in-law and took her advice (Ruth 3:2-5). Ruth followed Naomi’s instructions to the letter; she trusted the Lord, and He rewarded her faithfulness by giving her not only a husband, but a son (Obed), a grandson (Jesse), and a great-grandson named David, the king of Israel (Ruth 4:17). Besides these gifts (Psalm 127:3), God gave Ruth the blessing of being listed in the lineage of Jesus (Matthew 1:5).

HOW THEN DO I APPLY THIS?

The book of Ruth came along during a time of irresponsible living in Israel and appropriately called the people back to a greater responsibility and faithfulness before God — even in difficult times. This call applies just as clearly to this generation. The issue of obedience is very much relevant today. Obedience in everyday life pleases God. Meaning — When I reflect His character through my interactions with others, I bring glory to Him. Ruth’s sacrifice and hard work to provide for Naomi reflected God’s love — God’s faithfulness. Naomi’s plan for Ruth’s future reflected selfless love. My life should depict God’s Love(Selflessness) and faithfulness(Loyalty)

Ruth is an example of how God can change a life and take it in a direction He has foreordained, and we see Him working out His perfect plan in Ruth’s life, just as He does with all His children (Romans 8:28). Although Ruth came from a pagan background in Moab, once she met the God of Israel, she became a living testimony to Him by faith. Even though she lived in humble circumstances before marrying Boaz, she believed that God was faithful to care for His people. Also, Ruth is an example to us that God rewards faithfulness: “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him” (Hebrews 11:6).  Meaning God can do same for anyone who “Obeys” and has faith. God’s Word stands for all eternity.

God has never failed to care and provide for His children loving and faithful. Like Ruth and Boaz, we are called to respond to that divine grace in faithful obedience, in spite of the godless culture(world) in which we live. Stir up in me cravings to yield and obey you more, with the help of Grace. “For where you go, I will go” (Ruth 1:6). Desperate and more than willing to take this path but the question is — Are you willing?

Samuel said,”Has the LORD as much delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices As in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, And to heed than the fat of rams.(1 Samuel 15:22)

Hope of a life Spent with You

Purity Is Possible

Stay Blessed!

EMBRACING MY TRUTH

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I didn’t quite choose the path of obedience, talking my way out of every situation especially when these little fears creep up. Walking into every gathering self consciously, wondering if that stare was for me, don’t be deceived I wasn’t so confident. I remember being in a rush to have a taste of what being a “grown up” was like — experimenting things that didn’t leave me chaste, bad decisions so I dealt with them by covering up.  A few boy issues that I didn’t quite deal with properly, carrying the luggage of verbal abuse as a reminder but on the contrary that is too burdensome.

Had my fair share of struggles and still growing through them just like going through the wilderness so I’m guessing all I need is endurance. Trying to be the light but the guilt from the past and insecurities stare at me in the face — and there is my circle of people with their huge “expectations” of me — seeking validation. Perceiving myself to be so broken why will God even use me? I’m so messed up He can’t use me. Grace? Yet in the midst of all this I am still battling with Trusting Him…How do I do it?

Then comes “Destiny” revealing God’s original intent for bringing me forth. That underlying question we all have deep down inside. The mystery that unfolds His purpose for my life. But didn’t they say faith comes with being CHOSEN; If He called me to it, He’s going to bring me through it right? Hence I can no longer live in my feelings anymore; to do or not to do things just because I feel or do not feel like respectively. How uncomfortable am I willing to be for God? Beyond Emotions?

Truth is it might just be me and Him in this season thus anything that threatens to drown me from hearing from God or distract me from what He’s doing I must be willing to do away with(cut off). I don’t want to be counting on people to give me something I know only God can give — I might as well endure the stretch that comes with growth. The confusion that comes with the process — it is all coming together.

I can’t meet everyone’s approval before igniting the flame that God is trying to spark up in my life. Perhaps I don’t necessarily need people’s validation in order to be authentic but I actually need God’s hand on my life and His voice so that I can be everything He wants me to be and all I need is my willingness to yield. I don’t need to live in the parameters of my insecurities any longer. I have all the strength it takes “He gives power to the weak, And to those who have no might He increases strength” (Isaiah 40:29) So I’ll survive again, and again, and again — perhaps each time I survive, I may be teaching someone they can survive too by trusting God.

Willingly taking the path of being uncomfortable for God, to sacrifice, taking up that cross – without giving up to the end. Insights about my purpose will open through this stretch.

Hope of a Life Spent With You.